Online Dating – Is It Still Just For Geeks?

By Christine Hancock

We see TV commercials and get emails all the time about online
dating. But, what exactly is involved in online dating and who
does that sort of thing? Is it something I would want to do? Is
it just computer geeks meeting other computer geeks? What are
some of the things I need to be aware of before trying online
dating?

In this article, I will try to answer some of those questions
for you. I’m not promoting a particular online dating service or
even online dating in general. However, I do believe people want
to know a little more about what online dating is and what they
need to be aware of and beware of if they choose to participate
in online dating.

One of the things people need to consider, whether they meet
someone in a chatroom, a forum, or in an online dating website,
is that a person’s personality online in most cases does not
equal that of their personality when you meet them in person.
They may be very shy online, but not in person, and vice versa,
which is the more likely of the two.

People tend to be more blunt, outgoing, and talkative online
because of several reasons. Online they have a buffer zone
between themselves and you. Sometimes that makes them feel more
comfortable than they would be if you were sitting in front of
them. People also tend to be braver online than offline for the
same reasons.

One thing to beware of is that people also tend to lie more
online than they could get away with in person. They can tell
you they look like Tom Cruise or Jessica Simpson. And that’s
just the guys. They may even use someone else’s picture in place
of their own.

Before meeting anyone in person that you met on the Internet or
at an Online Dating Service, you need to know all you can about
them. Especially for you girls and women who are out there
looking to use an online dating service.

Unfortunately, there are men out there who will take advantage
of you and even those that might cause you harm. If you plan on
meeting a man or boy in person, you need to let several of your
friends know where you are going to meet him, who he is, and as
much information you can give them. If you can take a friend
with you, that’s even better. Always meet in a very public place
and don’t go anywhere to be alone with them until you know a lot
more about them.

Remember, you may have liked their online personality, but in
person you may not like them at all. That does not only have to
do with the way they look. It may be about their personality.
However, if they do not look like or are not the same person in
the pictures they sent you, leave immediately. They have already
started off by lying to you, so it is not going to get better
from there.

I don’t want to scare anyone off, because online dating can be
a great way to meet people and start dating. You may even find
your true love. I just want you to be cautious.

Many people have even married the person they met through
online dating websites. It can be a great experience as long as
you go in with both eyes open and realize you will meet all
types, just as you do in everyday life.

There was a time when online dating was considered to be for
geeks who couldn’t get a date anywhere else. That hasn’t been
true for a long time if it ever was. Now many professional men
and women use online dating as a way to meet new people because
the demands on them from their professions require so much of
their time that it leaves little time for socializing.

Others are just shy. They pass up opportunities to get to know
people out there who might be Mr. or Mrs. Right because they
never seem to make their move before the opportunity is lost.
Online, they don’t have that same problem. So for someone who is
shy, online dating can be a great way for them to meet people.

With many online dating services they do their best to make
sure you are chatting with people who have similar interests.
That helps break the ice, but don’t only try to meet people with
similar interests. Remember the old saying, “Opposites Attract.”
Don’t assume that because both of you like many different things
that it cannot possibly work out. I’ll bet you know couples who
seem to be two opposite people but still make one great couple.

As with any service you might pay for online, making sure you
are dealing with a legitimate company is very important. Many
online dating services are out for the money and will continue
trying to sell you more and more products. Signing up with them
is like agreeing to accept all the spam mail they can generate
to you.

There are legitimate online dating websites that only wish to
provide a good service for a reasonable signup fee. Ask around
online. Find a website other people you know recommend. If you
cannot get advice on which one to join, search the Internet for
complaints about those you are considering. Find out all you can
about them, then make your choice.

I hope this article has helped you learn a little more about
online dating. However, you will never know more about it unless
you are willing to try it. You don’t have to pick someone at an
online dating service and meet them in person. Maybe you will
just enjoy meeting them and communicating with them through the
online dating service. Remember, you are in control.

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Online Dating: What Can I Expect From My Dating Site

By Suzy Allen

In recent years, the online dating industry has exploded and
nowadays there are literally thousands of dating sites to choose
from. These sites differ greatly from each other in their
offerings and it’s not hard to see how one could get confused
when coming to choose between them.

One point of contention when using sites is what exactly can
the user expect the site to provide in terms of service, support
etc.

While there are no clearly defined guidelines for what is
expected of a dating site, there are some general industry
standards which are adhered to by reputable sites. Here are a
few things you can expect from a good dating site, as well as a
few things that would not be included in the service.

Things to be expected:

1.Reliability

When using a site, it’s not unreasonable to expect it to run
smoothly and efficiently and allow you to make use of the
features it advertises. This is especially true if you have paid
for the services, but is also a reasonable expectation even if
you are using a free site.

2.Privacy policy/terms and conditions

Never trust a site that does not advertise its terms and
conditions and privacy policy openly. These are usually
available as links from the main page or the about page of the
site, sometimes at the bottom of the page. Although often
lengthy and boring, these documents are an important read if you
want to know exactly what it is you are agreeing to when you
sign up to the site.

3.Problem resolution

Dating sites are designed to be a safe and secure environment
for people to meet. While sometimes it’s impossible for the site
to weed out every dodgy person immediately, it’s perfectly
reasonable to expect the moderators of the site to respond
quickly to complaints voiced by users and for offensive users to
be removed from the site.

4.Support for issues to do with the site

If you have problems using any of the features on a site, you
can expect help and support from the site staff. This includes
explanations of anything from the chat system to how to contact
people or how to upload a photo. Moat sites offer email support
and

5.Free search before payment

Allowing you to “try before you buy” is pretty much industry
standard. Most sites won’t expect you to put your credit card
details in before running a quick search on the site.
It’s always best to have a look around a site to see whether it
has any members and whether any of those look like the kind of
people you want to talk to. If a site requires you to pay first,
be suspicious: it may well be a scam.

What can’t I expect from a site:

1. 100% fault free

Dating sites are not as easy to maintain as any of us would
like. As a result, occasional downtime or bugs are inevitable.
While it’s fair to accept a decent level of service (see above),
do take into account that sometimes mistakes do happen. The fact
that a site is big and successful doesn’t necessarily mean it
will run properly 100% of the time. As a rule, a few bugs here
and there and the occasional few hours downtime are to be
expected but if a site is down for days, you’re probably better
off going elsewhere unless the situation improves drastically.

2. Instant results

Even online dating takes time and even the best sites may not
deliver the results you want straight away. Even if a site looks
disappointing at first glance, it may still turn out to be a
winner if you give it a bit of time. Spending a few weeks on a
site should be enough to tell you whether it’s the right site
for you. If, after that, you are still not convinced, at least
you’

3. Support for issues not to do with the site

Any good dating site will have a customer service team who will
readily help you with any issues relating to the site itself.
They are less likely to help you with issues relating to your
own computer or Internet service and your ability to use them.
Some may still do, but in general, the support teams who work
for dating site companies, expect the users to have a basic
level of Internet/computer knowledge.

4. Being able to deal with offensive things that happened off
the site

The people who moderate dating site only have jurisdiction over
what happens on their site. They cannot, for example, act on the
basis of emails sent off site, phone calls etc. The only thing
they can do is cooperate with the police in cases where there is
a need for further information when investigating a case.
It is common practice for Internet scammers to try and lure
people away from a dating site and into private conversations
offsite as soon as possible, exactly for that reason.

5. Getting involved in personal relationships (telling you if a
person has read your messages or not)

It is impossible for site teams to get involved in what happens
between users on the site unless the issue is someone is being
offensive. They couldn’t, for example, tell you whether someone
has read your messages if that feature is not a standard feature
on the site. They will also not be able to speak to another user
on your behalf.

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Dating Success – 5 Top Tips

By Pam Stokes

What is dating success? I’ve been asking myself that question
because I’ve recently devised a programme around dating and
wondered how many answers there might be. For instance, does it
mean you find the person of your dreams, get married and live
happily ever after? Does it mean your date would make a great
friend but not lover, or does it mean they’d be perfect for your
mate? When I asked a married friend of mine, he said “Dating
success? My wife not finding out!” He quickly added he was
joking and said that if he was dating again it would be an
enjoyable evening with a person knowing that he’d really like to
see them again.

Maybe negotiating your way through internet dating and speed
dating could be called a success in itself – that’s really
putting yourself out there! I know people do find the person
they’re looking for using both, but I’ve also heard many tales
of disappointment and feelings of rejection from friends too.

Whatever dating success means to you, here are 5 tips worth
remembering when you’re dating.

1. Be sure you remember what success means to you when you go
out with someone – have an outcome for the evening.

2. If you want to meet someone who makes you laugh, don’t get
side-tracked by the fab looking person you’ve just met with no
sense of humour at all.

3. If it’s really important to you that the person shares a
hobby or pastime, for instance reading, and their favourite read
is OK and Hello, ask yourself if that matches what you’re
looking for.

4. If you absolutely loathe speed dating, for instance, ask
yourself if this is really worth putting yourself through and
think about what would be the ideal way for you to meet someone.

5. Work on your confidence so you can cope with the ups and
downs of dating.

About the Author: Pam Stokes is a Business & Personal
Development Coach. Besides coaching, she provides interactive
online programmes for busy people, mentors newly qualified and
trainee coaches, and runs workshops in stress management and
NLP. Free downloads are available at
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What To Avoid In An Online Dating Photo

By Tiffani Smith

An online dating photo is the first chance you have to attract
a potential mate, so you need to make sure you get it right.
Here are some key errors you need to avoid.

Hiding Your Face

Your face is what most potential matches want to see. This is
your best marketing tool and the first chance to make a lasting
impression. That is why it is so important to get it right. Many
online dating photos do not do their owners justice. They show
people with hair all over their faces or large sunglasses
covering their eyes.

Instead of hiding your face and eyes, go for an online dating
photo that shows your full face. Avoid sunglasses and large hats
and keep hair away from your face. This will increase the appeal
of your photo. If you’re not confident about getting one of your
friends to take a good photo, consider finding a professional
headshot photographer. A professional headshot photographer will
make your photo look its best.

Too Much Makeup

Slathering on the makeup for a night on the town is fine, but
avoid this at all costs when taking an online dating photo.
After all, you don’t want to look as if you’re desperate. It’s
best to keep makeup understated to enhance rather than overpower
your natural beauty.

Other People

Leave the photos of family and friends till you get to know
someone. Your online dating photo should show your face and
no-one else’s. Other people will distract those who are looking
at your photo. Even worse, they may not know which of the people
in the photo is actually you. Since you are looking for a date,
the focus should be on you.

Keep Away From The Action

For the same reason, avoid using an action shot as your main
online dating photo. That photo of you on a white water rafting
or rock climbing expedition shows that you’re fit and fun, but
may not be the most flattering. Stick to a headshot for the main
photo and use the action pictures for supplementary profile
photos.

Fussy Clothes

Avoid loud checks and patterns. These may not appeal to
everyone and will reduce the effectiveness of your photo.
Instead, go for solid colors (they can be bright) to broaden
your appeal. And this is not the time to bare all. Leave a bit
of mystery until you get to know someone better.

The Professional Touch

If you avoid all these mistakes, your online dating photo
should make a good impression. Consider using a professional
headshot photographer to get the best lighting and close up
shots. And remember to smile. A warm, natural smile will make
any online dating photo stand out from the crowd.

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Online Dating: Advice For The Beginner

By Jason King

Gone are the days where you need to go out at the weekend to
find a possible love match. Why look for someone in one bar or
club when you can put yourself in front of thousands of eligible
singles online.

This advice will help you if you‘re new to online dating or
about to start your search for a partner. The more you learn
about online dating the more you will enjoy it. And the earlier
you start enjoying yourself you will start getting results a lot
quicker.

The first thing you must be to have a successful online dating
experience is honest. If you’re going to try and trick people or
tell white lies you will get found out, and then you’ll be back
at the start. Be honest from the start, and expect the same
back. It’s easy to test someone’s honesty with a few questions
relating to the information they have put in their profile.

Singles that don’t have enough information in their profile are
ones to avoid. Chances are they are probably hiding something.
You need to look for singles that are honest and open about
themselves. How can they expect anyone to get a feel for who
they are if half of their profile is blank. There are many
singles that will just put up a short profile hoping they will
get contacted by someone. If you’re looking for a long term
relationship that means something you have to find someone who
wants the same.

Don’t be afraid to ask questions. You want to find out about
someone who is going to be your future spouse. You don’t need to
bombard them continually with questions just ask the necessary
ones. Their plans for the future, and children. This is the
information you will need before you commit yourself.

If someone starts contacting you more often than you think is
normal this will probably be a sign of possessive behaviour. If
they’re like that before you have even met them, what are they
going to be like afterwards? Chances are your dating will become
a chore instead of something enjoyable. There will be thousands
of singles to choose from so you won’t need to get stuck with
someone of this personality.

Take your time when getting to know another single. You don’t
need to rush. This will make you look desperate as well to your
online date. Take things slowly, if you don’t you could end up
jumping into something too soon, and then regret it. When you
take your time you will have a better understanding of the right
time to meet them offline.

When you do eventually meet them for the first time do so in a
busy but quiet place. A coffee shop is a good first date. You
know you will stay sober, and there will be enough people around
you. See how this goes before meeting them for dinner where you
will probably have a couple of glasses of wine. But don’t get
too drunk as anything could happen then, and spoil what could
have been a good thing.

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Jewish Online Dating Tips – Romance In The 21st Century

By Belinda Sinclair

When it comes to Jewish dating, the term 'matchmaking' is
really not far behind. Jewish tradition has always had
matchmakers play a pivotal role in bringing couples together. Is
it any surprise then that Jewish dating enters the world of
online dating personals? However, unlike mainstream online
dating, there are a few Jewish online dating tip pointers you
should always keep in mind.

Jewish Online Dating Tip Points to Ponder...

Jewish Online Dating Tip # 1 – Go with dating services online
that focus on the Jewish community.

Although there is nothing wrong with marrying someone outside
one's own faith, it's always easier, and perhaps better, if you
use a paid or free online dating site that focuses on single
Jews. This way, you don't have to fear that the people you meet
using online dating personals will not be knowledgeable,
understanding or respectful of your faith.

Also, when previewing dating services online, you will
immediately notice that most Jewish dating sites try very hard
to preserve the Jewish tradition of matchmaking. In Jewish
tradition, a 'Shadchan' (matchmaker or marriage broker) was a
trusted third party who is tapped to aid in finding a partner
for someone or facilitating communication to further the
relationship between two Jewish singles. So, more often than
not, Jewish online dating personals will really take that extra
step when screening applicants or subscribers to their online
dating sites because they want to ensure that they present only
truly suitable candidates for you.

Jewish Online Dating Tip # 2 – Prepare well for your first
meeting.

If you feel that you have met someone online with whom you have
a good connection, then why not schedule a meet-up? Just don't
forget this Jewish online dating tip - handle the situation with
caution and proper decorum. Men, don't be too aggressive if the
one you're interested in is not ready to meet you. Women, don't
be too cloy, you DID sign up to meet other Jewish singles right?

And here's another online dating advice: don't lose that online
connection you have when you finally see each other in person.
How? Take the time to prepare for the 'big day'. Invest in an
at-home tooth whitening kit to improve the appearance of your
smile, pre-select the clothes you'll wear, and don't be late!
Indicating that you spent time planning and preparing for the
date shows you care.

Jewish Online Dating Tip # 3 – Be mindful of 'traditional'
Jewish dating etiquette.

Even though you met via the online dating personals, it doesn't
mean that you should toss customary Jewish dating etiquette all
out the window. For instance, when scheduling the date (or
making a follow-up) don't call during Shabbos (Jewish day of
rest) lest you annoy his/her entire family. Also, keep in mind
that very traditional Jews don't even want to shake hands with
members of the opposite sex if they're not family so here's an
important Jewish online dating tip: don't just go over and give
your date a peck on the cheek on your date!

Another Jewish online dating tip to consider is the need for a
'Shadchan' as the relationship progresses. When you both want to
take the relationship to the next level a Shadchan just might be
handy in facilitating discussions not only between you but
between your respective families.

Here's a final Jewish online dating tip for you: don't feel
that you are abandoning traditional ways of dating by using
online dating personals. Many Jews believe that today's 'modern
world' is negatively influencing Jewish singles to abandon their
faith and marry people with other religions. Although there is
nothing wrong with this, it is understandable that the Jewish
community, as a whole, prefers their young to marry other Jews
and thus proliferate the Jewish faith.

To this end, Jewish online dating site providers actually
provide a great service. This way, today's Jewish singles have a
way to hook up with other Jews they might normally not come into
contact with; after all, that is one of the beauties of online
dating personals... the world is at your feet with the click of
a button.

So do try out online dating personals, heed the Jewish online
dating tips we have outlined here and enjoy the experience!

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How Does Online Dating For Christians Help

By Jennifer Flanders

In today’s busy and cosmopolitan life, being Christian is
considered antiquated. Believing Christians are often not at
your work place or in your neighborhood. It becomes difficult to
meet good Christians for dating. Dating on line for a Christian
single is a safe way to meet a soul mate with similar Christian
values and interests. Christians are now using the Internet to
widen their circle and meet for dating and eventually to find a
Christian partner for life.

Just like other sites for couples, online dating for
Christians, allows you to search through the thousands of posted
profiles of believing Christians. Each interested person has an
enormous database to choose from. The hobbies and interests and
other points of interest are posted and you can pick and choose
the profile that is of most interest to you. This form of safely
meeting good Christians has become extremely efficient. Many who
have used these services and have posted their profiles have
made great friends and often these relationships have become
serious and have led to romance and finally marriage.

Just as in other sites, an online Christian dating system
provides a window to chat, exchange messages and photos and all
the other Internet features available on the market. This is
attractive to a Christian as you will be doing all the chatting
and messaging etc. with a Christian who shares your faith and
spirituality. In today’s hectic life style and agnosticism, this
online service puts you in touch with someone who shares your
faith and beliefs. Someone you can go to church with.

Often regular dating means a discotheque with its kind of music
or drinking at bars or getting together to drink at someone’s
place. Often a casual date may want heavy petting and sex as
part of the date. Meeting a fellow Christian with similar
interests and tastes could mean a quiet chat over tea or a nice
meal in a comfortable environment. A real getting to know each
other before serious physical contact. Physical contact has to
be a follow up to the spiritual harmony not the other way
around.

A Christian is first of all a believer in Christ and Christian
dogma. He or she is a churchgoer, involved with church
activities. For a Christian, it is most important that the
person they choose to spend the rest of their life with should
have the same interests, commitment and faith. Everything in
their day to day life is based on Christian doctrine and
centered around Christ.

Dating on line for Christians is the gateway that provides a
safe meeting place for Christians to get together online and
choose a person with similar interests. The most important of
all being the shared interest in Christian teachings and values.
A love for the church and its activities and above all to be
able to live a Christian life in partnership with each other and
be cemented by Christ in holy companionship and love.

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Online Dating Tips

By Laura Rinaldi

If you are not having any luck playing the dating game in your
home town, it may be time to give online dating a try. Online
dating can open an entire world of like-minded people to you,
people you would normally never have a chance to meet. In large
cities, online dating is a great way to find people in your own
area that you wouldn’t normally run into. There are numerous
online dating sites, but there are a few things you should know
before you jump into the online dating pool.

First and foremost, you must remember your own personal
security. Never meet with someone in person if you are unsure of
their background or their motives. While online dating can be a
lot of fun, there is a certain element that uses online dating
sites to spot easy victims. It is much easier to mask your real
identity online, and you may not know exactly who you are
dealing with.

Learn all that you can about a person before you agree to meet
with them face-to-face. Get their real name, and if possible
their birth date and place of birth. This will help you run a
background check on them if you are concerned they may not be
telling you the truth. Background checks are typically
inexpensive if you have them done online and can save you time,
money and even heartbreak.

Next, you'll need to create an online dating profile. This
profile will be visible to everyone, and will help you reach out
to other members of the online dating site. Some people prefer
to have a professional write their profile for them, but this
can be expensive.

However, it is easy enough to do it on your own, if you follow
a few guidelines. Never give too much information about yourself
in your profile. Since it will be available to everyone, you
don’t want to include information that is too personal in
nature, or that will reveal exactly where you live.

Your profile should be a reflection of you, but in the best
possible light. Try not to use too many exclamation points,
internet slang or all caps. You don't need to include your life
story, but you can give people an idea of what you’re all about.

It is also a good idea to try to avoid the standard 'long walks
on the beach' statements, and focus rather on your personality,
what you enjoy and most importantly, the type of person you are
looking for. If you get stuck, browse through some profiles
online to see what other people have done. This will help you
find your own voice, and spot some profiles that you definitely
do not want to copy.

If you find that you're meeting a lot of new friends, but not a
potential date, you may need to try to find a different dating
site. There are numerous free sites out there that are a great
place to start if you're new to online dating. You can get your
feet wet for free, and then move on to a more exclusive, paid
site when you’re feeling more confident and ready to really test
the waters.

The most important element of online dating is to have fun.
Within a few short weeks, you may find exactly what you are
looking for, and if not, you're sure to make a lot of new
friends. Just remember to keep your personal information
personal until you're sure you can trust the person on the other
side of the monitor.

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Check Out The Online Dating Services

By Julia Tanner

Dating in today's world is all about online dating. No other
media can deliver the kind of services that online dating
services can. With an insuperable number of singles that are
meeting online, dating services have become the de facto way to
date. So, if you are a modern single and looking for a date, you
know online dating is where it begins. The convenience of
browsing anytime, anywhere online trumps the antiquated methods
of in-person dating services, reading newspaper personal
listings and singles phone chat lines. There is no need to
schedule the first awkward date with someone when you can see
their picture and read their profile online first, then decide
if you want to date. The accessibility of online dating services
and their convenience is better and easier for everyone
involved.

The new millennium has offered you a lot of online dating
services. The goal was to enable people with different
backgrounds and interests to meet through the web. The emergence
of the information technology continues to pave way for the
limitless opportunities to exchange information in the Internet,
enabling to solve the problems of people that are hard up with
their time in finding a friend, or searching for a love of a
lifetime.

Singles and couples can enjoy each others company using the
best online dating sites available in the Internet. Online
dating sites contains web dating, relationship and flirting
tips, advices regarding on how to deal with party fears or how
to be at your best during a date, and more of other interesting
information.

There are also lists of offline and online agencies. It is
convenient for it allows instant messaging, easy search for a
profile of the person you want to meet and chat with. Thousands
of personal ads are available for you to easily browse with. It
is an ideal companion to bring dating to a new level of intimacy
and endless possibilities, in a comfortable, safe, secure and
intimate environment and bringing you with lots of joy and
positive results.

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First Date Tips - How Conversation Influences Attraction

By Maureen Arnold

Well you’ve finally worked up your courage and asked that hot
girl out on an official date. As if learning how to approach a
woman was not difficult enough - now, as the man, you are
expected to also plan the date and bear the brunt of keeping the
conversation going and keeping the date fun and interesting.
But alas - this IS the lot of men - at least - the strong man,
the alpha male that gets the girls and sparks the attraction in
single women.

The first rule of thumb when going on date number one is that
the first date is NOT AN INTERVIEW! You are not applying for a
job, presenting a resume or otherwise trying to impress her. If
you are TRYING to IMPRESS her, you will fail, because that kind
of behavior denotes lesser status, and women are not attracted
to men who are of lesser status. Period.

Only talk about the boring, run of the mill stuff if you have
run out of every other option. The idea is to go somewhere fun
and interesting so that the conversation (and attraction) will
flow naturally, no to a fancy restaurant where you are both
pressured to make "fantastic conversation" and instead end up
squirming in the uncomfortable silence between two strangers.

Attraction happens between two people when there is energy,
spice, humor, mystery, generally fun and saucy conversation.
David Deangelo would call this Cocky Funny. So if you want to
create attraction instead of boredom, you’re going to have to
learn how to make your conversation interesting.

You do this by coming up with an arsenal of unusual,
controversial or funny topics - topics like Britney Spears and
Justin Timberlake, Reality TV, Paris Hilton or even using your
surroundings (although you will have to be spontaneous with
this, and don’t start picking on people, keep your comments
light and be sure to spark CONVERSATION, not just make
observations).

You can use things like history - telling the woman about he
history of the part of town you are in, which will demonstrate
that you are intelligent and well read without seeming like it
is a ploy to impress her. Use things like historical scandals
or ghost stories to intrigue her. Or make conjectures about he
current state of the country - something like the price of gas
is so high not because of the war in Iraq but because the
daughter of the oil tycoon T. Boone Pickins has started text
messaging all her friends non-stop and the crisis is really due
to his Verizon Wireless bill.

Use conversation to create opportunities to be cocky and funny
while talking about the misfortunes and neurotic behavior of
others. Remember, and act like you are not there to impress
her. You are there to have fun - not get her approval. As she
is able to sense this attitude, it will intensify her attraction
to you as she realizes that SHE has to impress YOU.

And keep in mind - "busting on her" in a playful manner is also
great for attraction. So - if SHE starts in on the usual
mundane date talk wanting to know about your family, job etc,
take the opportunity to turn the tables on her and say something
to the effect of, "What is this, a job interview?"

So the bottom line? If you want to keep her interest, then you
have to be interesting from the beginning. The old-fashioned
act-like-you’re-on-a-job interview rap just doesn’t cut it when
it comes to keeping the flame of attraction alive on a first
date.

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What Women Want: A Five Point Guide For Men

By Tonja Weimer
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What women want may surprise you. At least once a day, as a dating coach and a columnist, I get an email from a guy somewhere begging for an answer to this most frequently askedquestion by men: "What do women want?"
The question of what women want comes from a genuine confusion in many men. What most people already know is that men and women think in very different ways. And how those different thinking patterns are demonstrated gets some couples in trouble. Men like action activities; women like to sit and talk. When you are planning a date, if you want to please her, try and combine both such as lunch and a walk in the park. Another example of the different ways men and women think is that men perceive working long days and even on weekends as a way to show their success or love. Women, however, may see that behavior as neglect. There are many other examples where men and women get their signals crossed.
If you have ever been at a loss for understanding what women want, here is a five point guide:
1. Being Number One
All women want to be Number One. Just ask Cinderella, Cleopatra, Miss Piggy, or any other well-known female icon. They want to know that they come first in a man’s order of priorities. They want to feel that their boyfriend or husband will choose them over every other activity or relationship. If your girl knows this, she won’t mind when your mother, child, friend, or co-worker calls and asks for help. What she won’tunderstand is if you have dinner with your Ex on occasion, or drop your plans with her and go have beer with the guys instead, or, never take time to ask about her day because you watch the sports channel every minute you are at home. Being Number One is the Number One desire of most women.
2. Keeping Your Word
Women want a man who keeps his word ... in his relationships, his work, and in all aspects of life. If you promised her the world(Disney World, that is) then you'd better give it to her. If you don't do what you will say you will, she won't trust you. Without trust, your relationship doesn't mean anything. Keep your agreements. If you can’t, tell her so (preferably,beforehand) and tell her how you plan to rectify it. More importantly, don’t make promises you can’t keep.
3. Listening
Women want a man who listens. I know you are tired of hearing about this one, but it is central to a relationship. She wantsto be heard. Listen to her. Apparently, this is difficult formost men to do. Sitting down and talking is not something you are naturally wired for. But you can learn. Further, it’s impossible to have intimate or important conversations with dogs barking, kids crying, or phones ringing. If your girl is trying to talk to you, handle any emergencies, turn off the cell phone and TV, and give her your full attention. If you do, you will make her feel that she matters.
4. Believing Her
Women want to be believed by men. Men tend to be (or think they are) more analytical than women. Therefore, when she speaks, and is trying to tell you something important, you may have atendency to dismiss it. If you know how to balance your brain with your heart, and listen with kindness, you will find that what she has to say is relevant to your life with her. If you are with someone you don’t trust, then her words will have no affect on you. (And you should be asking yourself why you are there.) But if you love and trust her—then believe her.
5. Doing What She Asks
Women want you to do what they ask at crucial times. She doesn't expect you to "fix" everything, but there are times when her requests call for action. I know, I know—some of you are probably smirking by now. But if you implement what she says, you will have an extremely happy partner. This statement assumes that you are with a good person; that she is rational most of the time; that she does not ask the impossible or the ridiculous of you; and that she is equally giving. Some men find this hard to do because they feel that to do this, they are being a wimp. Believe me, she wants you to have backbone. And there is every opportunity in all parts of your life to exercise that quality. She isn't asking for you to give up anything. She is asking to be heard and cared about. If you trust her character and if she tells the truth…do what she asks.
Go on and try these suggestions. If you are with a happy lady…you are going to be a happy man. This is what women want.
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Dating

By Anna Jones
Nothing can be more pleasant and gratifying than being in love, having a momentous relationship and sharing life with your ideal soul mate. Dating is not only about having a quality time with your partner accompanied by candlelight, flowers, a little wine and some good soft music. With some ingenuity and mind's eye you can always make your date a dream come true. Good subject, common interests and some sharing thoughts will make your date reach the acme of harmony.
Blindfold your partner to a surprise destination and buy an everlasting smile to his or her face. A picnic laid out for two in a park dappled with rose petals will make your date a perfect, endearing one which you both will treasure. Avoid going for a movie or dining at a restaurant on date. Instead, arrange a compelling dinner at your home for your date and hold a good theme for the night to amuse your lover. You can also make for an exciting date by sharing some common interests. Recall what you both have shared on your first date, your likes and dislikes and set out to make your date more affectionate, deeming all of them. If you both share a common interest in a particular field then make your own ground there. For example if you are an animal lover then make your date a cozy one by visiting a zoo.
Dating brings two individuals in concert by providing them with some congenial instances to get to know each other well. Two people get the opportunity to spend some time together far away from any social carnival or a peer group where the duo can talk to their hearts content and also decide if they are attuned for a more passionate alliance. A pleasing time coupled with a gentle ambiance would not only spice up your relationship but also add a smile of delight to your partner’s face. All this ideas will help you to gain that feeling of contentment of a successful date.
First date is the most stirring spark in one’s life. Preparing for it can really be a nerve-wracking task even for the grown ones. The following ideas would trim down your quandary to a great extent and will thereby make your date a thriving and memorable one. First of all, always plan out for a date which will stand to be exciting for both of you. If you are not comfortable with the plan set by your partner then don’t hesitate to decline honestly yet courteously rather than messing up afterwards.
For women, it’s recommended not to go for too much exposure of body on your first date unless you are pretty sure of gaining only physical attention.
For men, plain sweatshirts or casuals are a no-no on their first date. Simple yet smart fad is preferred. Another ill habit of making your date waiting for hours just to gain extra attention or arouse palpitation is not at all appreciated on the first date. Be patient in holding conversations since your partner can be reticent at first but if you can lighten up the air a bit by chatting on some exciting topics then your partner can actually lend his voice for some personal chit chat.
For men, it is suggested always bring some gift for your date apart from a token of thanks as it defines your affectionate attitude. No heavy gifts are advisable. Flowers or a plant can be apt as a gift for your first date. A bouquet of roses, tulip and sunflowers would work wonders on the mood of your lady. Ladies should check their emotional baggage at the door. Do not involve any issues about your deceitful ex-boyfriend, your psychotic boss or your family disputes. At the end of your day when your date will drop you at your place, grant him the privilege to lend you a goodbye kiss and if you defer then you’ll be making yourself just another good friend.
If you want to give an amorous and idyllic touch to your date, a sunrise date is the ideal one. Plan out a wondrous early morning date with your partner and invite him or her to watch the awe-inspiring sunrise along with you to some beach or anyother beautiful location and after enjoying the spectacular vision, share a brunch at a cozy bistro.
Another thrilling dating category is Blind Date. But you need to be brave and open-minded to go out for a blind date. It’s advisable that while going out for a blind date, make sure you get all the relevant details about the person you have chosen as date. Trade emails and talk to the person over the phone prior to setting a date. An open place is suggested for a blind date. Ladies should avoid calling their blind date for a cozy dinner at your place. First impression reckons a lot but that does not imply you will go overboard with your apparel. Carry yourself in a way so that it brings out a strong personal decree as who you are rather than overwhelming your partner with your charisma. Sometimes it takes few minutes to relax and reveal oneself in a blind date. So be patient, give some time to your partner who might at first suffer from little bit anxiety and along with the flow of time both of you will ease down. Put the conversation at its best by avoiding personal grilling and confine yourself towell-bred queries. Your date should not in any way start taking up the trail of monotony; else you might just have to please yourself with the contemplation of being the person’s last date. Bring a conviction in yourself while going out for a blind date and keep this in mind that you take all your chances and should be capable of tackling any circumstances coming your way. Wit and sense of humor is appreciated but if practiced exceedingly, might take an awful turn.
Internet has acquired quite a very demanding status in terms of dating. This super-information highway has been the most wanted matchmaker since past few years. Online dating is one such gizmo of internet which may sound a bit stupefying but it has in fact gained immense popularity among the net addicts. People especially teens often pick up their date from internet and go out for a coffee or some other refreshment. There are numerous websites which provide online dating service and connects people around the world who log in to the site in search of their ideal date. On a date, a person usually tries to present the best of him so that he can experience a rewarding consequence. Usually two people focus on personal areas such as attitudes, moral fiber and uprightness, expectations, family, social and cultural backgrounds, lifestyle, interests, personal beliefs, political views, priorities, religious views, ways of communication and also wealth or financial situation.
The key objective of dating is to be acquainted with each other’s temperament so that one can settle on whether to make the other person his or her future partner. Sometimes the date proves to be futile. Two people on the very first date finds out that they don’t get along with each other well and therefore decide to part on the spot. But the fruitful ones lead to a thriving bond. You can not choose the love of your life without meeting the person. So it’s indeed very essential to know each other. Dating lends a hand to you and it’s not always limited to your first date to decide. You can always take your time and go out for as many dates as you and your partner wants. But make sure you fit all the desired requirements for a winning date.
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Is Speed Dating For You?

By Kerry Ng
Speed dating started up within the Jewish community in Los Angeles in the 1990s. It has become a popular way to screen dates quickly and safely. Typically, participants pay a set fee for the evening. They are introduced to several potential partners with each “date” lasting anywhere from three to eight minutes. At the end of the evening, participants let organizers know which dates they’d like to see again. If two people have selected each other, the organizers will provide them with contact information so they can get together and set up a more traditional date.
Members of speed dating say it removes the uncertainty from the dating situation. There is no guessing if the other person might be available or might be in the correct frame of mind to date. The very fact that the other person is at the speed dating event shows that he or she is single and avaliable. Speed dating makes it easy for singles to meet several eligible people in a short period of time. Traditional forms of dating usually take up an entire evening, even if one person realizes in the first five minutes that the other person is not for them. At a speed dating event, the mismatched date takes up only a fraction of the evening.
Finally, speed dating definitely favors those who are attractive, warm, and outgoing and favors attractive participants with outgoing personalities. The person who is not especially outgoing, or who is shy and takes a little while to“warm up” will usually not get a fair shake at speed dating events. These people are better suited for other types of dating that allow time to get acquainted before a final decision about future dates is reached.
As well, speed dating relies heavily on first impressions, and as we all know, may be inaccurate. The eager-go-getter from the five minute date may turn into a male slug after a few weeks of dating, and the dream girl of the five minute date may easily turn into the shrew of the five hour date a week later. Speeddaters should always remember “Let the buyer beware.”
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Free Online Dating

By Sarah Miller
Dating sites are popping up everywhere. If you do a search on Google under "Free Online Dating", there are over 85,000,00results. That figure is mind boggling!
The best way to find a free online dating site is to do the Google search. I usually select dating sites within the first 2pages of the search results. It makes is much easier to select a site and usually you can find a quality one within those parameters.
I suggest that you try several free online dating sites. Don'tbe afraid to put yourself out there a bit! It takes a while tosee which site fits your personality and needs when you are new at this and there is nothing wrong with selecting more than one site to put your profile on.
People used to be very skeptical about joining Online dating sites but with our busy schedules and the fact that we sometimes commute to work, we need a way to meet people outside of our working environment.
Free online dating sites take the risk out of dating. Without having to pay for a membership your opportunities are endless.Yes, there are some dishonest people on the internet, but also those people exist in real life.,
A great way to meet someone with some anonymity is through instant messaging. You can chat for awhile online until you feel comfortable enough with that person to give out your cell phone number. Never give out your home number as this can be traced. Even cell phone numbers can now be used to obtain addresses. If you feel uncomfortable this way you can communicate via Skype through your computer and then proceed.
Usually the better free online dating sites have features such as instant messaging, email, webchat and forums. Those features are almost becoming standard. As the supply of dating sitesincreases and the competition to stay at the top of the searches remains tough to ahieve, site owners are looking for more incentives and features to grab attention and maintain their membership base.
There is another issue that comes up with free online datingsites. There are alot and I would say most of them have alot offake profiles. Some sites put them on themselves. A lot of sites however do not realize that people from countries such as Asia and Africa are submitting profiles many times to scam members.This is quite common since the access to these sites doesn't cost anything. It is up to the dating site administator to monitor this from time to time. Normally, a reputable site will remove them when they are advised of this problem.
With the internet scam problem, it is up to people to use a little common sense and not give money to people saying they are stranded in Africa. That is one of the biggest one going aroundright now with online dating. It is kind of "Buyer Beware" as weare adults and really should know better with all theinformation out there about scams today!
Free online dating has been a blessing to many people that would never had the opportunity to meet and is also bridging distances as many people are connecting from hundreds if not thousands of miles away. It doesn't have to be just about love. Many people have made great lasting friendships through the internet!
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Internet Dating - Is It For You????

By Teresa Chesley
Okay, you are single, for whatever reason, you hate the bar scene, so where do you meet people to date? For me two years ago it was the internet gamble.
Internet dating is a two-edged sword. I have met some very, very good friends on there, but I have also met psychos, inconsiderate men, men who don't have a clue, men who only want sex....you name it, I have gone out with "it."
At first it was very exciting to have all these dates, get to know people and talk about your past experiences. Now, when I see a man on the internet I just wonder what his agenda is.
Don't let the sweet words on the phone or the internet fool you....when you meet they very well may be a horse of a different color! But how are you to know? Wish I knew the answer but I don't.
Rule number one is never meet a guy for the first time at your home. Offer to meet him at a restaurant, for coffee or lunch at a mutually agreeable place. You don't want this guy to know where you live until you have fully checked him out.
My philosophy has always been to be totally honest and up front from the very beginning. This doesn't settle well with many, but so what...you have to protect yourself, your self-image and your self-esteem.
I have always teased that I could write a book about all my experiences (some are not to be believed!) and I really could, but I don't have the room to do it here.
I think the bottom line is: guys are not what they always seem, they can turn into different people and probably not the kind of person you are looking for. I have definite, strong feelings about what type person I am looking for and if the guy I have been out with does not meet those standards.....next!!!
Enough of the man-bashing. Like I said I have met some very,very nice men who are and always will be my friends - the boyfriend/girlfriend thing just wasn't going to work. And we all can use more friends!
Be cautious, look out for red flags and don't waste your precious time on someone you know is not what you are looking for.
Good luck in your search!
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How To Write An Eye Grabbing Online Dating Profile

By Honey B. Wackx
Are you the type of person that skims a lot of online profiles because they are so dull and uninteresting? If you're creating a profile of yourself take the time to put some interesting detail into your own online profile. After speaking with several single friends I learned they like to know what books someone likes. They want to find out the types of movies a potential date or partner enjoys, and to hear about their spiritual preferences. They would like to know the persons recreational likes. Allthese things are a big to help in understanding more about the person.
So doing these things, adding more detail, being more descriptive will help your profile stand out since many people will skip those sections or put in only a word or two in them. After all if you were looking for a date you would want to find an interesting person to date. So use that to your advantage and make sure your profile has all the little extras in it to capture the attention of more potential dates.
People like to know about what a prospective date learned from past relationships. So if you can satisfy that curiosity by writing about your compassion, acceptance and other qualities itshould help considerably. If you have a lot of bitterness, anger and heavy baggage don't write about it, don't let it come through or you'll turn everyone off. If you still have a lot ofunresolved issues from past relationships it is good to try to resolve them so you don't bring them into future situations. If they can't be resolved try to suppress them or better yet hold off looking for a date until you can control your emotions and feelings and eliminate or greatly reduce issues regarding past relationships.
When you create your user name you can use a variation of your own name. Alternately you can use something that illustrates your interests such as skydive lover or masterchef etc. A lot of people love sunsets, bicycling, nature and eating out so if you do mention these things you should expand on them and mention additional interests in order to differentiate yourself from the crowd.
This way you will make yourself more unique. If you have an open mind about different spiritual traditions then it's good to list them and indicate your open mindedness. This will allow you to receive more responses. Same is also true for the categories of interests and exercise that many online dating sites include. Even if you aren't into astrology, put down your sign as some people like to use that as an indicator as well. The more you seem like an ideal match the greater your response will be.
On many of the dating and matchmaking sites the frequency of logging in will determine whether your profile will appear near the top of the list. So it's helpful to login fairly regularly as those profiles become closer to the top whenever a site's order of profiles is based on activity date. Even if you don't have time to scan its often wise on those types of sites to have a frequent login if you value being near the top of the list.
Some sites allow you to wink or smile at someone. This is good, but I think most people prefer getting an e-mail as it helps them to get to know the person a little more and is more of apersonal touch. When you get a wink or smile you can wonder if someone is just going through the whole list and doing that. Following these tips should help you meet someone moreinteresting or similar to yourself.
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Relationships Found On The Internet

By Sandra L. Brown, M.A.
With the need to date fast and find quick relationships, the
internet has taken on the role of a hook-up location.
Unfortunately, it is also a potential stalking ground for
relationship seeking gone awry.
There are some inherent problems with internet relationship
seeking. It is difficult to read body language, eye lingo, and
verbal pacing of sentences via email. One of the ways people can
keep themselves safe in dating relationships is to feel and
respond to their red flags. Red flags are greatly reduced by the
inability to see first hand someone’s immediate response to
statements or questions. Email, which is usually how people
first talk when met on the internet, impairs the ability to get
early insight into potential relationship problems.
People have created false senses of intimacy via internet
relationships. I know of one woman who met a man from Iran on
the internet and went there to marry him without ever having met
him in person. It was a disaster and hard for her to get back to
the states. He was nothing that he had represented himself as.
A false sense of relationship intimacy increases rapid personal
disclosure. The relationship connection with someone online
(that you have no idea if he is safe or not or who he says he
is) becomes privy to a bulimic-like purge of personal problems
and information. This is very common for women to rapidly
disclose and over disclose personal and historical information.
Dangerous and predatory men have stated that "women who rapidly
and overly disclose make my approach easy." Men who are not
highly verbal in person may be very verbal online and the woman
perceives this as ‘relationship,’ ‘connection,’ ‘knowledge about
the person,’ and ‘intimacy.’
The internet increases relationship fantasy—you can be whoever
you want to be with someone you aren’t sure you will ever meet.
The increase in non-credible information about someone is
significantly higher. People can lie about where they live,
their marriage status, previous relationship history, career,
appearance, or criminal history.
People who are unhappy in their marriage find internet
relationships to be the perceived escape out of misery they have
been seeking. Many are disappointed (or even horrified) to find
the relationship online is all fantasy and not much reality.
Women have left husbands for online men who never materialize.
When it comes to who the person is or what the relationship is,
they find it’s more about what the person has projected and
fantasized the relationship to be—not what it will become in the
future.
While it is unlikely that internet relationship seeking will
ever disappear, women need to understand the risks of internet
hook-ups and the ways it puts a woman at a distinct disadvantage
in reading body language and red flags.
For more information on dangerous relationships, see
www.HowToSpotADangerousMan.com
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psychotherapist who worked for the past 20 years with both
female victims of violence and male perpetrators. Her interest
of practice has been in the attraction between victim and
perpetrator. http://www.HowToSpotADangerousMan.com
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First Date Talk

By Sheila Furley
The feelings of romance are known to overwhelm us. This feeling
can first manifest itself in our first dates. While we may not
always recognize this emotion when it happens to us we do feel
the need to act in some way that indicates how we are feeling.
While some people may be quite comfortable talking with their
date, others need help with their first date talk.
This first date talk that you can have can encompass many
different subjects. You will need to use the information that is
dropped or given by your date to understand their feelings. If
you are not too sure about the words that you are hearing then
you may want to look at the body language to find what is being
said.
You can get help to understand body language. This talent will
come in handy when you are interpreting a first date talk. To
find this help you can look on the internet. Here you will find
sites that can point you in the right direction with regards to
reading body language and what is really being said on a first
date talk.
While these internet sites can be of help there are people that
you know whom you can ask for help and guidance with regards to
a first date talk. With their help you can navigate the murky
waters of a potential relationship. Of course once you have been
out on a few more dates you should learn how to interpret these
signals for yourself.
In some of the dates that you will go on you will receive ideas
about what is considered as the perfect dream date. From this
first date talk you will gain an insight as to what you should
plan for other subsequent dates.
You can ask your various family members to help you plan this
perfect dream date. While this is a good idea you should
remember that your tastes and theirs may not be the same. For
this reason you should listen to the first date talk which will
tell you what you should plan on doing to help the date go well.
The activities that you will take part in while you are on your
first date should be fun. Your date should feel that going on a
date with you is time that is well spent. If you have listened
to the various first date talk signs you may notice if your date
is pleased with the way that the date went. This will indicate
their feelings on whether they want to go out with you again, or
if they would rather not see you again. The success of your
future dating plans lies in the way that you listen to your
first date talk.
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years, she plans to release some of her articles on the
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First Date Rules

By Sheila Furley
Dates are the foundations upon which we build a relationship.
The way that we act or talk will influence how long this
relationship lasts. In order to make sure that you have a good
chance of a lasting relationship there are some rules that you
must play by. One such rule is that of the first date rule.
While you may have never heard of this rule it is one that you
should adhere to as the success story of your relationship will
come into contact with this rule. The rule is in itself simple
but many people have forgotten about it altogether. Therefore
let us just see how you come into contact with the first date
rule.
In any budding relationship you have two people who are meeting
for the first time. Since you are desirous of making this date
work you need to plan how to make your date feel comfortable in
your presence.
This means that you will need to adhere by the first date rule
of choosing a public venue to meet. The requirements for this
venue should be one that can be reached and seen with ease. You
should also make sure that it is open to the public eye and
there are enough lights around to dispel any shadows.
The main reason for this aspect of the first date rule is as
you are meeting a perfect stranger they like you will be
nervous. To help relieve this show of nerves you can have your
date in a place where you are both feeling relaxed.
Another part of the first date rule is that you should plan
your date so that it is fun but affordable. This is a necessity
as you may need emergency money. The date props that you can use
to plan your date, does not need to be in any way expensive.
In a situation like this, the first date rule is that you
should look for is that you make the date fun and enjoyable.
There are many places where you can have a first date. These can
be both inexpensive and hey romantic. For instance a picnic in
the park is a good way for you to get to know each other.
You can even plan to spend some time at an amusement park. Here
you will find that the atmosphere is filled with laughter. You
can go on rides, talk with each other, and discover your likes
and dislikes. Additionally you will find lots of delicious food
to eat. All in all a great first date venue.
While having a perfect date is not an absolute must in the
first date rule book there are times when you will need to make
do with what is at hand. The only really important aspect of the
first date rule that you need to consider is that you are
spending time with someone who could be an important part of
your future.
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Sheila Furley has written on a number of subjects throughout the
years, she plans to release some of her articles on the
internet, read more of her articles at her website.
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First Date Advice

By Sheila Furley
For every romantic relationship there is always a beginning.
This beginning can be found in the steps of our first date. To
make any first date romantic you may want to find some helpful
first date advice.
This advice that you can get will come from a number of
different places. You should look at all of these places in
order to choose the ones that will be the most help for you. The
first place to get some first date advice could be from your
friends who have been in this same situation.
The other place where you can get first date advice is from the
internet. Here you will find many sites that can offer you help.
This help will range from simple and easy to follow first dating
activities, to treating your date right, what you should and
should not do on a first date. You will also find information
and tips to make any first date a success.
You can also ask various family members to help you plan the
perfect date. While this is a good idea you should remember that
your tastes and their may not be the same. For this reason you
should listen to the first date advice which will tell you what
you should plan on doing to help the date go well.
While all of this is helpful you should keep your options for
first date advice open. The information that you have received
can be taken in small parts which will be of help for you. As an
example you can take the first advice to plan your date. In
order not to overwhelm your date or make them feel uncomfortable
you will need to think of a public venue for the date.
The activities that you will take part in while you are at the
first date should be fun. Your date should feel that going on a
date with you was time well spent. If you have listened to the
various first date advice you may notice that you are informed
of the signs which will indicate their feelings – if they like
you enough to go out with you again or if they would rather not
see you again – about going on a second date with you.
Hopefully you will have found this first date advice to be of
help. The way that you take this advice can help you to have a
great time at your first date. You may even find that first date
advice can help you avoid the mistakes which will ruin a first
date.
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Sheila Furley has written on a number of subjects throughout the
years, she plans to release some of her articles on the
internet, read more of her articles at her website.
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How To Make A Long Lasting Love Relationship

By D Richards
Dating and establishing love relationships can be compared to
choosing a car. You pick out the make, model, year, color and
features that you assume are best for you. After driving your
motorcar for a couple of months, you realize that perhaps you
should have purchased a larger car, or that maybe the leather
seats would have been better, or on hot sunny days, the sunroof
would have been nice. However, it is now too late so you choose
to keep your vehicle and accept the decision you made.
Love and Marriage
The same principle applies for marriages or couple
relationships. You will not live in a rose garden all the time
but there will be some severe obstacles to overcome, I'll
virtually guarantee you. However, but you have made your
decision and now you choose to make it work no matter which
marriage troubles you are experiencing.
Are the good, old love relationships gone?
Dating and marriage is different than it was thirty years ago.
Today, the divorce rate is much higher as more than 50% of all
marriages fail for one reason or another. Just thinking about
that fact makes "commitments" and marriage vows seem scary. It
seems that when relationships are faced with challenges, people
has a tendency to quit trying. Dating is more like a marathon,
trying to date as many people as possible, rather than taking
time to get to know someone on a deeper level. For married
couples, divorce is not biased. Whether married for thirty years
or half a year, the outcome can be the same.
The truth is that relationships, whether dating or married, are
hard. Things do not always go perfectly, arguing and fighting
does occur, and it takes a 100% commitment from both parties to
make it a success. Often when people break off a relationship,
they feel as though something vital is missing. The "spark" has
gone, leaving one or both people feeling helpless and
unfulfilled.
What's The Secret Of Everlasting Love?
Even though the odds are not perfect, it has been proven by
many people that healthy and long-lasting relationships are
definitely possible. Look at couples like for example Paul
Newman and Joanne Woodard, Danny Devito and Rhea Perlman, or
Nancy and Ronald Regan.
What secrets do and did these couples possess? The answer is:
work hard and carefully at the relationship. They made a
decision of choosing to love their mate rather than relying on
the "warm and fuzzy" feelings, which all that have been married
knows will fade sooner or later. By making love a choice, you
are making a decision that even in the bad times that you
certainly are going to experience, you stick it out.
There are hundreds of things you can do to build, strengthen,
and enhance your love relationship. You can find many good and
valuable relationship self help resources online. Remember,
small steps taken every day will add up to big successes.
About the Author: David Richards likes to give his readers
relationship and other self development information and
articles. You can read more at
http://www.1st-self-improvement.net
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Compatibility In A Relationship

By Brigitte Meier
Harsh words, hurting comments, tears and flying household
objects - for sure, no one ever wanted that to be the everyday
routine when deciding to live together with the beloved person.
Yet, why is this such a common picture, portrayed even in many
Hollywood dramas?
Two people meet, they fall in love - that happens, in a
multitude of different ways, thousands of times all over the
world. Then, if they're lucky and everything goes well, they
decide that since they love each other so much, they want to
stay together and share a home.
Now, for married as well as unmarried couples, they have to
adjust to a new situation: Every-day-life decisions depend on
two people's opinions, preferences and wishes instead of one
before.
In single life, one's the only instance of decision on what
party to go to, when to clean the place, what to wear, what to
eat and where to go on holiday. For a divorced person,
especially with children, a lot of responsibilities are added. A
single parent has to be mother, father and breadwinner, has to
take care of education, the children's need for love and all
other problems occurring. These responsibilities, if mastered,
as well as the comparably easy life of a single person, bring a
lot of independence.
And this independence, being an advantage in the situations
described above, can turn into a problem when it comes to living
together. Suddenly, decisions need to be agreed upon by both
parties, and compromises have to be made. Especially in the
first time of living together, those incompatibilities can lead
to the actions described above.
In the adjustment period, both need to be aware of those
possible dangers and respect each other's difficulties in
getting along with the new situation. Otherwise, the feeling of
love and closeness that originated the wish to live together is
bit by bit replaced with a feeling of rejection.
The natural reaction on being criticized, misunderstood or in
any other way "attacked" is to defend oneself. If you're used to
make decisions alone, without considering another, maybe
diverging opinion, you might feel attacked when your partner
doesn't share your line of thoughts or wishes. The worst, but
unfortunately most common, because instinctively made, reaction
is to "fight back".
For example: You want to go to a party. Your partner wants to
go out for dinner. So your initial feeling is being "attacked":
Why does your partner reject your proposal, what's wrong with
it? So the instinctive reaction, from a feeling of frustration
and defiance, is to "fight back": A sharp remark, pointed at the
partner's proposal and aimed to hurt, seems to be the
appropriate reply.
Even if no further fight is following that situation, the
feeling remains and the bond between you is weakened. Now, no
one would break up because of such a little fight. But it's
damaging the bond between you, even just a little bit. And maybe
in some years, when responsibilities like an own house and
children tie you together, you'll find that the constant damage
of these little incompatibilities have left you wondering what
made you being together in the first place.
The hideous about this process is that it works so slowly.
Human beings have an astonishing ability to get used to
situations and, no matter how bad things might actually be,
accept them sooner or later as normal. So out of pure habit, we
tolerate the incompatibilities we have to build a wall between
us instead of stopping, sitting down and sorting things out.
When some years of low-level fighting (not bad enough to make
you break up, but bad enough to slowly poison your relationship)
have passed, it's nearly impossible to fix the damage done and
to erase the barriers that have hardened over the time.
In order to avoid a situation where the only alternatives are
professional advice or divorce, some guidelines can help keeping
things from going that far to the bad side.
Control yourself. By observing your reactions and the resulting
tension between you and your partner, you'll be able to easily
isolate the kind of feeling that makes you react sharp and
hurting. So once you know where your weakness lies, keep
yourself from reacting immediately upon those triggers. Think
twice, and consider if your ego (nothing else you're pleasing
with a sharp reply) is worth hurting your beloved one. In most
situations, a second of silence is enough to make you regret the
answer you would have given. Don't get it wrong, it doesn't mean
you always have to step back. There are situations when a
confrontation is necessary - you just have to learn how to
distinguish them.
Reflect on your words. Imagine the same situation, just with
exchanged roles. Of course, you have to be so fair to admit if
you would be hurt in your partner's place. Now that you imagined
the impact your reaction would have on yourself, think twice
again if it's worth it.
Stay cool. The worst things are said and done in anger. If you
focus on what you want to achieve, there is mostly a better way
than a violent verbal or even physical reaction. Or do you
really think that your partner would give in to you shouting,
and even be happy with that?
Be ready to share responsibility. Especially for single
parents, it's difficult to get used to trusting someone else
again. But without trust, your relationship won't last.
Be realistic. When you move together with another person, that
means that your way of life will radically change. Your
independence will be replaced by interdependence: You'll be less on
your own, but mostly with our partner. You'll spend less time
with our friends and more time together. In result, you'll have
to compromise on what you're going to do with your time - the
more your interests diverge, the tougher it'll be to find
acceptable compromises.
Consider this carefully, and if you think that you're not ready
for it, tell your partner - before it's too late.
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