Well you’ve finally worked up your courage and asked that hot
girl out on an official date. As if learning how to approach a
woman was not difficult enough - now, as the man, you are
expected to also plan the date and bear the brunt of keeping the
conversation going and keeping the date fun and interesting.
But alas - this IS the lot of men - at least - the strong man,
the alpha male that gets the girls and sparks the attraction in
single women.
The first rule of thumb when going on date number one is that
the first date is NOT AN INTERVIEW! You are not applying for a
job, presenting a resume or otherwise trying to impress her. If
you are TRYING to IMPRESS her, you will fail, because that kind
of behavior denotes lesser status, and women are not attracted
to men who are of lesser status. Period.
Only talk about the boring, run of the mill stuff if you have
run out of every other option. The idea is to go somewhere fun
and interesting so that the conversation (and attraction) will
flow naturally, no to a fancy restaurant where you are both
pressured to make "fantastic conversation" and instead end up
squirming in the uncomfortable silence between two strangers.
Attraction happens between two people when there is energy,
spice, humor, mystery, generally fun and saucy conversation.
David Deangelo would call this Cocky Funny. So if you want to
create attraction instead of boredom, you’re going to have to
learn how to make your conversation interesting.
You do this by coming up with an arsenal of unusual,
controversial or funny topics - topics like Britney Spears and
Justin Timberlake, Reality TV, Paris Hilton or even using your
surroundings (although you will have to be spontaneous with
this, and don’t start picking on people, keep your comments
light and be sure to spark CONVERSATION, not just make
observations).
You can use things like history - telling the woman about he
history of the part of town you are in, which will demonstrate
that you are intelligent and well read without seeming like it
is a ploy to impress her. Use things like historical scandals
or ghost stories to intrigue her. Or make conjectures about he
current state of the country - something like the price of gas
is so high not because of the war in Iraq but because the
daughter of the oil tycoon T. Boone Pickins has started text
messaging all her friends non-stop and the crisis is really due
to his Verizon Wireless bill.
Use conversation to create opportunities to be cocky and funny
while talking about the misfortunes and neurotic behavior of
others. Remember, and act like you are not there to impress
her. You are there to have fun - not get her approval. As she
is able to sense this attitude, it will intensify her attraction
to you as she realizes that SHE has to impress YOU.
And keep in mind - "busting on her" in a playful manner is also
great for attraction. So - if SHE starts in on the usual
mundane date talk wanting to know about your family, job etc,
take the opportunity to turn the tables on her and say something
to the effect of, "What is this, a job interview?"
So the bottom line? If you want to keep her interest, then you
have to be interesting from the beginning. The old-fashioned
act-like-you’re-on-a-job interview rap just doesn’t cut it when
it comes to keeping the flame of attraction alive on a first
date.
About the Author: Maureen Arnold writes for
http://www.youcangetthegirl.com.
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