What is dating success? I’ve been asking myself that question
because I’ve recently devised a programme around dating and
wondered how many answers there might be. For instance, does it
mean you find the person of your dreams, get married and live
happily ever after? Does it mean your date would make a great
friend but not lover, or does it mean they’d be perfect for your
mate? When I asked a married friend of mine, he said “Dating
success? My wife not finding out!” He quickly added he was
joking and said that if he was dating again it would be an
enjoyable evening with a person knowing that he’d really like to
see them again.
Maybe negotiating your way through internet dating and speed
dating could be called a success in itself – that’s really
putting yourself out there! I know people do find the person
they’re looking for using both, but I’ve also heard many tales
of disappointment and feelings of rejection from friends too.
Whatever dating success means to you, here are 5 tips worth
remembering when you’re dating.
1. Be sure you remember what success means to you when you go
out with someone – have an outcome for the evening.
2. If you want to meet someone who makes you laugh, don’t get
side-tracked by the fab looking person you’ve just met with no
sense of humour at all.
3. If it’s really important to you that the person shares a
hobby or pastime, for instance reading, and their favourite read
is OK and Hello, ask yourself if that matches what you’re
looking for.
4. If you absolutely loathe speed dating, for instance, ask
yourself if this is really worth putting yourself through and
think about what would be the ideal way for you to meet someone.
5. Work on your confidence so you can cope with the ups and
downs of dating.
About the Author: Pam Stokes is a Business & Personal
Development Coach. Besides coaching, she provides interactive
online programmes for busy people, mentors newly qualified and
trainee coaches, and runs workshops in stress management and
NLP. Free downloads are available at
http://www.pamstokesassociates.co.uk
Source: http://www.isnare.com
Permanent Link: http://www.isnare.com/?aid=69434&ca=Dating
This site: http://www.thedatingjungle.blogspot.com
Subscribe to THE DATING JUNGLE
No comments:
Post a Comment