Dating and establishing love relationships can be compared to
choosing a car. You pick out the make, model, year, color and
features that you assume are best for you. After driving your
motorcar for a couple of months, you realize that perhaps you
should have purchased a larger car, or that maybe the leather
seats would have been better, or on hot sunny days, the sunroof
would have been nice. However, it is now too late so you choose
to keep your vehicle and accept the decision you made.
Love and Marriage
The same principle applies for marriages or couple
relationships. You will not live in a rose garden all the time
but there will be some severe obstacles to overcome, I'll
virtually guarantee you. However, but you have made your
decision and now you choose to make it work no matter which
marriage troubles you are experiencing.
Are the good, old love relationships gone?
Dating and marriage is different than it was thirty years ago.
Today, the divorce rate is much higher as more than 50% of all
marriages fail for one reason or another. Just thinking about
that fact makes "commitments" and marriage vows seem scary. It
seems that when relationships are faced with challenges, people
has a tendency to quit trying. Dating is more like a marathon,
trying to date as many people as possible, rather than taking
time to get to know someone on a deeper level. For married
couples, divorce is not biased. Whether married for thirty years
or half a year, the outcome can be the same.
The truth is that relationships, whether dating or married, are
hard. Things do not always go perfectly, arguing and fighting
does occur, and it takes a 100% commitment from both parties to
make it a success. Often when people break off a relationship,
they feel as though something vital is missing. The "spark" has
gone, leaving one or both people feeling helpless and
unfulfilled.
What's The Secret Of Everlasting Love?
Even though the odds are not perfect, it has been proven by
many people that healthy and long-lasting relationships are
definitely possible. Look at couples like for example Paul
Newman and Joanne Woodard, Danny Devito and Rhea Perlman, or
Nancy and Ronald Regan.
What secrets do and did these couples possess? The answer is:
work hard and carefully at the relationship. They made a
decision of choosing to love their mate rather than relying on
the "warm and fuzzy" feelings, which all that have been married
knows will fade sooner or later. By making love a choice, you
are making a decision that even in the bad times that you
certainly are going to experience, you stick it out.
There are hundreds of things you can do to build, strengthen,
and enhance your love relationship. You can find many good and
valuable relationship self help resources online. Remember,
small steps taken every day will add up to big successes.
About the Author: David Richards likes to give his readers
relationship and other self development information and
articles. You can read more at
http://www.1st-self-improvement.net
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